Gist_with_Chadele: Trust

Trust can be defined as having confidence, faith or hope in someone or something. A typical example of trust is believing that the sun will rise in the morning. At this stage, you know that if the sun does not rise in the morning, it means something is wrong somewhere.

Some people feel it is over the edge to trust someone and base it on their inability to feel such emotion or their ability to think logically but trust is both an emotional and logical act.

Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. So, in practice, trust is a bit of both emotion and logic.

Trust issues may be your number one obstacle to connection, warmth, and intimacy. When you’re experiencing trust issues in a relationship, you cannot extend yourself, or make yourself vulnerable, which is essential to lasting success.

Overcoming your trust issues in relationships is probably going to be difficult. If you have real trust issues, it could mean that you’ve been hurt in the past. Your lack of trust is held in place by fear of being betrayed, humiliated, taken advantage of or otherwise manipulated all over again. The perceived risk may be overwhelming.

Trust issues are based on real life experience, some of it probably originating from childhood, although this isn’t always the case. Some adults legitimately experience horrific betrayal and pain at the hands of others. Trust issues show up as a natural defense mechanism.

Unfortunately, trust issues inevitably turn into self sabotage. For example, when you don’t trust, you don’t connect with others. Missing out on chances to get to know people, to network, form friendships, and intimate relationships can only be called self deprivation.

Lack of self confidence, missed opportunities, loneliness, and even social anxiety are the results of this kind of self sabotage, which is maintained by painful trust issues that will not relent. You’ve got your reasons for self sabotage in the form of very real trust issues. However, it is self sabotage nonetheless.

Some signs which show you have or are experiencing trust issues include;
* You predict how people will betray you without evidence of betrayal in the
relationship.
* You trust people you have no business trusting
* You trust people too quickly, etc

Trust comes naturally and almost effortlessly for some, yet there are many who claim they trust unless they are given a reason not to. When faced with these trust issues, there are ways through which we can overcome them. They are;

* Learn to forgive
* Don’t repeat the same mistakes
* Know what you want
* Let go of fear

Thank you for reading, you can hit the comment section to tell us what you feel.